Develop a Self Belief System That Works for You
Most of us carry with us self beliefs that were given to us by others. As we grew up, we had a number of influences who shaped the way that we think. Some of what we were taught is useful and serves us well. However, there is a lot that we carry with us that causes us great harm. Until we analyze our belief system, we will not be able to create the life that we truly desire.
It is interesting to note that most of society is free. There is a percentage of the populous that is incarcerated for crimes against society. So too, are there people who live in political system that does not value the freedom of its' people.
Nevertheless, the majority of the people in the world live in relative freedom. They can choose whom they marry, what they do for a living, and where they live and have their own beliefs. Most societies allow their people to move around freely without restraint. As long as an individual is obeying the laws of the system, that person has wide latitude in self conduct.
Believe in Physical Freedom
The freedoms offered by governments are physical freedoms that all its' law abiding members enjoy. However, many operate in a “prison like” atmosphere regardless of what they are given. This prison does not exist on the material plane. Rather, it is a creation of the mind. It is manufactured from an individual's belief system. These beliefs become people's jailers.
Most will tell you that they can think for themselves. To suggest that they are incapable of creating their own ideas is met with an overwhelming attitude to the contrary. All their success, experiences, and intelligence give a sense of independence. They mistakenly believe that their belief systems are self made, of their own making. Unfortunately for them, it is not.
Create a Belief System that Works
A fundamental concept to creating the life that you desire is to create a belief system that works for yourself. Contrary to what most think, our belief systems are shaped by the influences around us. Teachers, parents, friends, co-workers, and institutions all have input into the beliefs that we live by. Have you ever noticed how children's ideas often reflect those of their parents? This is so common that political organizations poll school children during Presidential elections because they accurately reflect the sentiment of the adults.
The governments of the world are masters at shaping the belief structure of its' people. Through the use of propaganda, public opinion is swayed based upon the desires of those in power. This is often done in the name of nationalism. A group of people is established as a threat to society.
Events are shown to validate this viewpoint while creating the emotional dislike towards that group. Thus, the government is free to act as it sees fit with the full support of its people. Unfortunately, most people do not have first-hand experience to form a solid conclusion. Of course, they will defend their own belief even though they are not certain where it came from.
Religious Belief System
It is common for people and organizations to manipulate other's beliefs for the sake of control. The government is one example. Some religions throughout history have acted in a similar manner. They used the threat of an angry Deity and eternal damnation to control the masses. There were numerous instances where the Church of England was the most powerful organization in Europe.
With a following that is under control, it is much easier to maintain influence. Naturally, there are many denominations where this is not the case. So, too, are their many people whose lives are enhanced by their religious belief system and affiliation. Unfortunately, this is not true in all instances.
The key to a belief system is creating one that works for you. As an adult, you have the freedom to believe anything that you desire. Spending time questioning where some of your self beliefs came from is healthy. It is also effective to determine whether they still work for you. If they assist you into being happy, joyous, and free, then they are worthwhile. However, when they instil pain, perhaps it is time to rethink them.
Guilty and Shameful
Ironically, the belief systems that seem to cause the most chaos in people's lives come from those who love us the most. Many individuals suffer from psychological disorders due to the influences of their parents. Things such as low self-esteem, abandonment, and sexual issues all come from our upbringing. Typically, one who suffer from any of these, was made to feel guilty and shameful.
Their worth was shown to be tied to their performance which never was good enough. Mistakes were not forgiven but something to be used as a weapon to make the other feel worse. All this was done as a form of control.
Leap forward twenty years and you find that a person who grew up in this atmosphere often still carries these self beliefs. Even though recent experiences will prove to the contrary, the individual still hears the words of the parent. It affects the relationships with friends, lovers, co-workers, and oneself. Without some help, the person is often incapable of healthy interaction with others.
There is a degree of sickness in all that is done. Thus, the individual turns to other things to fill that void that exists whether it is drugs, alcohol, sex, or food. However, if the belief system was viewed as insane, the person might be apt to change it. Simply altering a few of the basic beliefs one holds regarding oneself miraculously changes life.
Believe in Attaining Freedom
The more that we can accept that it is likely that what we believe came from other, the better our chances are of attaining freedom. There are many things that were taught to us by others growing up which serve us well. This is especially true if we were raised in a loving home.
However, society being as selfish as it is, there is much that stands in our way of happiness. Analyzing our belief structure gets to the root of what motivates us. A system that contains a great deal of fear will cause one to often act out of that fear. The opposite is also true. To create 'our' life, it begins with creating 'our' own belief system.
Power Inside Everyone for Personal Growth
The most common mistake done when evaluating specific features of self belief is associating strong will with a character from a movie that does impossible things, saves the world and creates an unforgettable impression on anyone watching him in action. The reality is a bit different and we realize that we are no supermen and will never become ones. Real humans usually act in accordance to their impulses and stimulus only then guided by our own self belief system and common sense.
Our aim is not to win, to conquer or defeat. We prefer to hide behind the backs of others to avoid conflicts and get rid of unnecessary worries concerning responsibility. Someone will state that it is wonderful to live a life without worries devolving the burden upon someone else’s shoulders. But when consciousness wakes, the eternal struggle between what is right and what is easy, starts. Our life is always about “I have to” and “I want”.
Ruled by Obligations
Our minds are buried under the daily routine so deep that we don’t even realize that we have no personal belief system. We rush to work and sit overnight with a research paper instead of getting some sleep. This is not because you want to but because you have to. Prior our life was a struggle between obligations and desires, but now we don’t even observe its presence. We pushed down all our self desires and are ruled by obligations that sometimes hurt you more than a knife in a stomach.
On the panorama of such commonly accepted way of thinking, those who have the courage to quit the much-hated job, change the life style or break the unions that are unworthy. These very people we call crazy are strong-willed persons that know the value of life growth and self belief. And we continue to blame them, being jealous deep inside. In every life there comes a moment when the change can break the usual lifestyle, plans or systems that were set for the far future.
Desire for Self Growth
This is unavoidable and we have to deal with it, otherwise there will be nothing good left of memory of you for your children. People admire those who have the nerve to resurrect a constant struggle between desire for self growth and obligation and follow the call of the heart never breathing a word about a loss they had. A strong-willed person never stops in front of the difficulty, never turns back facing hardships. Only those who have the courage, belief and strong will to change their lives for better are worth admiration.
Why is it to admirable? A coin has two sides, as we know. On one side there is freedom, admiration, independence, satisfaction and other pleasant features that stand by strong-willed people. On the other side there are losses, rises and falls, hatred, tears and more tests you have to pass before you become successful. This is what brevity is all about. And more and more people will realize the value of choice, self belief and the life system itself.
An Efficient Way to Self Belief
Gaining Self Belief
When our self-belief is low, we tend to have the habit of picking at ourselves. Little self-criticisms enter our thoughts constantly, and a lot of the time we do not even realize we are doing it! We just feel crumby. It is simply a bad habit to pick at yourself, but since that makes us feel sad and incompetent it limits us from doing all we can in life.
When we notice we are doing self-criticizing, we can argue with the criticism and that helps. But if each evening we just think of three things we can feel good about ourselves, that would go a long way to building a more positive habit of self belief in ourselves in terms of the good, rather than the bad and help us in life.
We deserve to have better self-belief system. And the stronger we are, the more we can help others and want to help others, so we should never feel guilty about feeling good about ourselves. It is not selfish. There is a big difference between healthy self-esteem and being egotistical or insensitive to others.
The egoist usually does not feel good about themselves. Their big words about themselves is a cover up how small they feel. Self-image is often quiet. Some person with a good self-worth system is not threatened by others criticizing them. With healthy self-belief they can laugh at their own mistakes, rather than having these mistakes making them unhappy and sad.
Develop an Online System
So at the end of each day, develop a system of self belief write in a journal or an online blog at least three things that either you did today or ways that you are, that are things that you can feel good about or proud of. Maybe you were kind to someone or did a task very well, or resisted a temptation, or just simply did your best and tried, even if things did not turn out well.
What kinds of things do you admire in other people? Did you do any of those things today? What qualities did you admire in your parents? Do you take after them in any of those ways? Are there other ways you chose consciously not to be like? Have you avoided addictions or crime? We already have many qualities we take for granted. Perhaps you received a compliment or two today, or a thank you note, and those are also good things to note. Do remember all these things in your daily life.
Write three things a night for a week to start and then try to make it a whole month slow and gradual. Every person has value, every single day. You especially need to write three things on those days when you feel less good about yourself, but if you miss a night, just start again the next night. In a month you will have a little collection. It can be a good thing to re-read when you are feeling low. And will feel a noticeable difference as you go through your day.