What Is Self Help and How Can It Improve Things?
Self help is defined as the action of improving oneself without the help from others. Often times, people look to self-help books to get a clear perspective about life when things get too hard. Some people believe that self-improvement doesn’t actually work because many people have reported that it doesn’t provide them with lasting change. However, there are multiple scenarios in which your own help has worked and when it can benefit you the most.
When Self-Help Works
* People often attempt self help when trying to be more productive with their work and everyday life. These people can then focus on goal setting, time management, and prioritizing. Rather than getting help from a “professional,” it’s common for people to help themselves when wanting to become more productive.
They know deep down what they are doing wrong that is preventing them from being productive, so it only makes sense that they are the ones to help improve themselves.
* Self improvement assists people gain that momentum back when they have lost sight of their goals, or never even had the inspiration in life to do great things. Once again, you know yourself best, so you have the greatest idea at where you lost inspiration and why you lost it. Asking yourself these questions has often been key in finding or even discovering that inspiration back into your life.
How to Get the Most out of Self-Help
Despite what so many people say, self-help works! Here are some tips to getting the most out of self-help.
It’s important that you know sometimes there are situations in life where self-help won’t work, as it cannot help with everything. In many situations, self-improvement can only get you so far.
Ancient Methods of Self-Help Still in Practice Today
You might be surprised to learn that most of the modern self-help ideas that we practice today really aren’t new ideas at all. Every modern book that you’ve read on self-improvement, including “The Power of Positive Thinking” by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale, came from ideas from the past - even ancient ideas.
Self-Acceptance and Discipline
As you see most of these self-help methods were started long before you were born. They were just repackaged into new by various authors, doctors and theologians as their own ideas. Some of these self-help masters are not so straightforward about where their ideas came from, whilst others quote directly from the ancient philosophers.
Finding a Self-Help Group That's Right for You
Self-help groups have a great history of getting people the help that they need. They often help with mental health issues, mental illnesses, and addiction problems. Many people get comfort out of knowing that they aren’t the only one in the world suffering, so they look to support groups for that help and care.
Helping You Choose the Right Group
Here are some questions and tips to think about when choosing the best type of support group for you.
Questions to Ask Yourself after the First Meeting
After you’ve decided on a self-help group that you’re going to attend and you have attended your first meeting, ask yourself some of these questions.
It’s important that you’re comfortable with the back-up group you choose, so ensure that you get any and all information you can on the help in your area. Once you’ve found the right self-help group for you, go to the meetings. You’re there to get help from others that know what you’re going through, so don’t back out of your commitment. You’re there to get better, so ensure that you go to as many meetings as you can.
When Self-Help Just Isn't Enough
Signs That You Need Professional Help
Sometimes you get to a point in your self-help journey where you realize that what you’re doing for yourself just isn’t enough anymore, or quite possibly never was. When you get to this point, it may be time to get help from a professional. Listed below is a list of common mental disorders and the signs that you need further help.
If you’ve tried self-help, meditation, exaggerating your biggest fear, and distracting yourself but they haven’t worked, it’s easy to get flustered. But this may not always be your warning sign that you need more help. You may just need to keep trying out the methods or try some improved ones.
However, you may need help if you’re noticing that your anxiety is causing you a lot of distress and getting in the way of your life. If your anxiety is preventing you from going to school or work, drive, or go to the grocery store, this is when you may need to get some professional help. Talk to your doctor about the options open to you before going through with anything.
If you’ve tried being more active, avoiding alcohol and caffeine, and you’ve talked to your loved ones about how you’re feeling, but those things just aren’t helping you to manage your depression, you may just end up getting more depressed. Don’t jump to conclusions though that you need help because those tips haven’t worked. There are always different improvement methods to try that just might do the trick for you.
However, if you’ve ever had thoughts of harming yourself to escape from your depression, get the help you need now. Another sign that you need professional help would be if your depression is getting in the way of you having fun. If you choose staying at home in your room, depressed and angry with the world, over going out with your friends, for example, it’s time to get assistance. Don’t let your depression get the best of you. Whenever you decide that you need professional help, it’s available at any time of day.
If you’ve tried to help yourself, talking to your loved ones and eliminating the thing you’re addicted to from your life, but it hasn’t worked, this may be the time for you to get help from a professional. Addictions can be very dangerous and toxic to your body. You need to get help right away if you still have a feeling of need towards what you’re addicted to. Professionals will be able to help you and eliminate that sense of need.
If you feel as though your mental state is getting too much for you to handle, you need to get the professional assistance you need. Ask for help before it’s too late. Different types of illnesses all have different tell-tale signs that you need further aid. Don’t wait until the symptoms listed above happen to you. You know your body best. Listen to what your body is telling you; get the help you need.